Having Fun at the Beach

I was thinking about all of you fighting for your marriage so I flipped open the Bible and these are the verses my eyes landed on.

Psalm 17:11-13 They have tracked me down, they now surround me, with eyes alert to throw me to the ground. They are like a lion hungry for prey, like a great lion crouching for cover. Rise up, Oh Lord, confront them, bring them down; rescue me from the wicked by your sword.

The Sims are praying for you!



That’s Not a Log?

It’s not your husband’s fault

You’re insecure

You were insecure way before he came around

Were you not

Do you not remember highschool

That is a log


It’s not your wife’s fault you can’t get a job

And keep it

That’s your fault Sir

That also is a log


It’s also not your husband’s fault

You keep spending money you really don’t have

When he is working so hard to make it

That’s your fault

Big log


It’s not your husband’s fault you have no friends

No its your fault

Because you’re not friendly

That’s a log too

Good encouraging friends are a very important part of life

Jesus had friends

And He was God

And you’re not

You need friends


It’s not your wife’s fault you went and bought that big truck in

Your driveway


Remember you forgot to talk to her about it

That’s your signature on the doc

Not hers

It’s you who feels insecure if you don’t have the best of the best

Not her

Big log brother


Start pulling the log out of your eye. The sure sign you have one is you think your spouses log is bigger and more of a problem than yours. This was me several years ago. I was blind. Seriously blind. Many of my friends were blind to it too because Darin’s problems were seemingly so much bigger. He had issues!

I am convinced that the reason it took so many years and Darin leaving 5 or 6 times is because I refused to see I had a log in my eye. I think God was up in heaven watching it all play out and said ok Darin go back home…he would come back and I would start in on his “issues” sometimes even being nice about his “issues” and God would say ok Darin you have to leave again she is not getting this. Again and again this happened.

All the years we were struggling in my heart I feel Darin had only a sliver and I was the one with a log?  Why do I say this…If you have a big log in your eye you can’t see. He was never blind to his issues. He never ever said he didn’t have issues. But I was convinced I didn’t have any and thought I was the best wife you could ever have and if I was mean or made a mistake it was his fault because of his issues. I was blind and arrogant.

Take time to read this even if you have read it thousands of times.

Matthew 7:1-5

“Do not juedge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brothers eye, when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.






The Twinkies


You know how your kids have never had a Twinkie

Well your husband’s new girlfriend

Who throws him all kinds of respect

Lots and lots of respect

Loves Twinkies

When you move out

She will move in

She will be bringing her Twinkles with her and there will be

NOTHING productive you can do about it


What am I saying here….

We live in a society which promotes “good eating”, “clean eating”, buying “organic”, Non GMO’s, and the latest is “Whole 30” I think… on and on it goes. Millions of dollars are spent and millions of dollars are made promoting “eating right”. Everyday as a mom I wake up and think what am I going to feed my family. Like many of you I try to make healthy things. I stay away from the “middle isles”.

But…want I want to stress to you and frankly anyone who will listen to me is this…your kids would be better off eating twinkles every. single. day. if it means they have their family unit intact.

While your busy worrying about “clean eating” and worrying about whatever society wants you to concern yourself with a lion is crouching about seeking who he can devour.

Clean eating isn’t the most important thing after all is it?

No…your family staying together is the most important.

Now no-one makes money promoting this

But it’s the truth.


You see…

Once your divorce becomes final you will not have time, energy, or money to even think about “clean eating”.

If you don’t believe me ask the Single Mom you sit by at work.

The single Mom who never stops

Because she can’t

Ask her if “clean eating”

Is at the top of her list

Top of the list of things she needs to concern herself with


We are praying for all of you. Read the Word today. Start with Proverbs 30 or Psalm 30. Do that. Then do what it says. In Faith. Darin and I and our two girls are where we are because we “Obeyed our way out”. First I did and then Darin followed. It’s not an accident or some fluke that we are even able to write and encourage you. NO accident. Darin and I are just regular people who simply did what the Word said to do. Come on now. You can persevere, you can change, you can obey, there is grace for this.


This pic was taken while I was at home taking a nap a couple of weeks ago. I can promise you these are not fake smiles and my nap wasn’t fake either. I slept so hard someone came to our door and I didn’t wake up. What a miracle! What a miracle our lives are. God has pic’s like this with your faces on them. Come on now you can do it!



How are you obeying your way out? What verse is God talking to you about?







The Wind

Dear Jesus,

I pray for everyone I know whose wind has just been taken out of their sail’s.
They have nothing left to give
I speak to that wind and I say you will blow again
You will pick up momentum and speed
The Bible says in Matthew, Mark, and Luke that the winds and water obey Him
So that is exactly what your going to do
You wind are going to pick up speed and strength is going to come into those who need it to keep going.
You wind are not in charge
God is


God Heard Your Prayer

I asked my friend Neta Williams to write a post to encourage you.



Before I get into it…..

Sin will cause your prayers to fall on deaf ears. God will not answer your prayers if you are a sinner

So get saved, really saved.

If you are following the guidelines of God and if you have made up in your heart to follow God…

This is for you.


James 5:16.

You don’t have to worry if God heard you when you have prayed about your marriage, husband, kids, job, or anything else that you are concerned about because He hears your. Daniel was praying and waiting on God to answer his call for 21 days. Just like us, he was getting tired and weak. He was even wondering if God heard him.

Sounds familiar?

While we are in prayer for the same thing day after day, we sometimes get to that same point. If you are not careful, you will loose out on your blessing. God did you hear me? Are You ignoring me? Are You going to answer? What’s really going on?
Daniel ( who’s was known as Balteshazzar) had a vision… the angle in this vision begin to speak to him about the things that was going on for 21 days.
Just know Saints of God… Women of God since the first day that you prayed that prayer.. God heard you. It made it to Heaven. If you are following God’s guidelines…. The only thing left to do is..SEAL IT WITH A PRAISE.. no wining and complaining… JUST PRAISE GOD… it’s on the way.


Neta Williams

Founder of Godly Wife

This is the first part of a 21 post series Neta has written.  If you would like, you can join the Facebook page, Godly Wife,  to get the rest of the series.



No One Matters

Am I saying fight for your marriage

It don’t matter what I say

Is your Pastor saying fight for your marriage

It doesn’t matter what he says

Is your BFF saying fight for your marriage

It doesn’t matter what she says either

What about your Mom and Dad

They don’t matter

Your Uncle and Aunt

Your cousins

Your neighbor

Your roommate

Don’t matter

None of them matter

Only one person matters

What is God telling you

The ONLY one who knows your future

The only one who knows what is going to happen 5 minutes from now

What is He telling you

And by the way

By Pastor not mattering

I mean the Pastor that asks you to

Give and Serve every single Sunday

That pastor

And every Sunday for years you have said to yourself

I don’t make enough money to give and I don’t have enough time to serve

But suddenly when you go to that same pastor

And tell him your awful story

He agrees with you and says

You have no choice but to file

You actually listen to that

You don’t listen to him when he says


and  Serve

You just listen

When he says quit

Don’t put this on your pastor

Put this on yourself

You matter

You decide

You change

You cry out to God

You say Lord I hear and I obey

Tell me what to do

And I will do it

I don’t care what it is


We talk about God doing a new thing all the time. It is so fun to say and hear everyone cheer. Yes! Yeah!!! He is doing something new!

Living this out is brutal! Difficult! Treacherous and eventually Glorious! Friends, He loves us so much and He is not going to ever leave you there to rot but you have to do whatever He tells you to do. You just got to. Remember this one tip: He usually only gives you one thing to focus on at a time and then you build on that.

So for example when God first started helping me because I was finally ready to listen He said, be nice to Darin don’t scream, preach, or tell him how he was to do things. I just started there. VERRRRY hard to do. I made tons of mistakes. But God kept comforting me and loving me so much, just like He loves you. When I wanted to scream I remembered that verse he gave me in 1 Peter 3 about how some will be won over without words. God helped me every day to be able to do that and now I have an awesome amazing wonderful husband. There is not a man on the planet that I would rather call my husband than Darin Sims. Every time I say my full name…Julie Sims I think to myself, the enemy tried to take my last name away, thank you God that I am Darin’s wife. It isn’t lost on me to this day. I am proud and grateful Ito be a Sim’s. See my precious friends God did a new thing! Its a miracle. How is that possible. God’s amazing love thats how.


Shake off that discouragement. We love you guys!








Sustain Me


Psalm 3

Lord, how many are my foes!

How many rise up against me!

Many are saying of me, “God will not deliver him.”

But you, Lord are a shield around me, my glory, the one who lifts my head high.

I call out to the Lord, and he answers me from his holy mountain.

I lie down and sleep;

I wake again, because the Lord sustains me.

I will not fear though tens of thousands assail me on every side.

Arise Lord!

Deliver me, my God!

Strike all my enemies on the jaw; break the teeth of the wicked.

From the Lord comes deliverance.

May your blessing be on your people.


I remember what it felt like to live out these verses. What a battle it was. I know exactly how it feels to be sustained.



We love you guys and have tremendous hope for all your families!  Every single one!



Talk To The Hand


I was reading Proverbs 19 this morning, thinking of all of you fighting for your family, when I came across this awesome verse:

Many plans are in a man’s heart, but the counsel of the Lord will stand.


I am praying for you today that no matter what comes your way, no matter what ideas and plans your wandering spouse comes up with, you will be able to say to your emotions, your fears, your own desires and your own thoughts…Talk to the hand!

In our darkest of days God gave me the supernatural strength and ability to do this. I pray the same for you! I pray that you will keep your eyes on the one who is really in charge and have the patience and faith to walk out His perfect will and see His counsel come to pass.


How did this look practically?

Most importantly I read the Word every time fear taunted me and tried choke my Faith. Sometimes it was several times a day, once a day, or every other day.

Also, and I have said this before, I was VERY careful who I talked to. I only talked to those who needed to know. Pastor, Counselor, and my two friends standing with me in Faith. That is it. Besides that I kept myself busy with my business, being a Mom, and church life.

Another thing I did, and I can thank my mom for teaching me this,  I took care of myself physically. I have never been one to work out so I didn’t do that but I always looked nice. I think that is very important. I did not walk around looking defeated and helpless, especially in front of Darin.



Darin and I are standing with you!


Why Do I Want Certain People’s Approval

I was sitting in my living room asking the Lord why I long for certain peoples approval. Why is this? Several months ago I was talking to the Lord about it,  telling Him how I should wait until I am perfect to write because then people would not hate me and then ultimately they would approve of me. He said to me… Julie, I was perfect and people hated me.

But even in Him telling me that I still sit here wishing for the approval of certain people.


Why do I feel disapproval

You ask…well I feel

The words I write often times are like

A bandaid that is being ripped off someone’s arm

My words reveal

Someone’s wound

A wound

That they have been

Trying to hide

And cover

And pretend doesn’t exist

In my heart I hear people say

Julie please

Don’t say that

Just keep quiet

I’m good

I’m not wounded

But my words

Rip off that bandaid

And reveal that there is a deep wound

I say to God

Why am I someone that is called to write things that do that

Isn’t the wound better covered

Isn’t it safer

Isn’t it better for everybody

To pretend there is no wound

I say to God

Are you sure I am supposed to say that

Are you sure

And He says

Say it

I say but people don’t want the bandaid ripped off

People want to pretend it isn’t there

The pain that is

Oozing out

Is not really pain

Why do I have to be the one

To rip off the bandaid with my words

Why God

Another time I was arguing with God telling him that I need to be completely healed to be able to write. How embarrassing to write out of my own hurt. That is so humiliating! I want to look perfect, without any scars and He said Julie I have scars. My scars prove I died on a cross for you, my scars prove I rose again, they prove my power over life and death. I love my scars!

God has showed me that he wants the bandaid  ripped off so that He can come and heal your wound.

He wants to heal it so all you see is a scar.

And then your scar

Will prove that God is alive

That He does have the power over death

And over life


Today I am praying for you, that if someone says something or does something that rips off your bandaid which then reveals your wound,  you will not rush to find another bandaid but you will lift your wound up to the light of God so that He can come turn your wounds into scars.

If you have time to google Isaiah 53 it is a good chapter in the Bible. It talks all about Jesus’ wounds.


Love you my dear precious friends!




The Hard

Does God ask us to do hard things

Yes He does

He asks us to do very hard things

Heart wrenching

Hard things

That is what His grace is for

Grace to do the hard

Not grace to do whatever we please

But grace to do whatever God pleases


I remember years ago when I was in Bible College God asked me to do this hard thing. My parents divorced when I was 18 and my Dad ended up moving to the same city where I attended college.

During my college years my Dad was not in a good place. He was not well. He loved God but he was filled with himself I guess. It was terrible, heartbreaking as his daughter. He was so selfish. He was in and out of jobs and had very little money. As a result I ended up giving him money, a lot of money. I became my Dad’s crutch. I knew It was all lop sided but that is just how it was. This went on for several years.

I will never forget how God helped me do this hard thing:

I was waitressing at Perry’s on Fremont at the time and one night my Dad called me at work and said Hey I need 5 bucks to go play golf. I said, ok come down I will give it to you. As I got off the phone with him I immediately felt a complete lack of peace, frustrated, and just sick in side. I felt the Lord speak to me and say Julie if you give him 5 bucks you will be angry and it will be your fault. You have only yourself to be mad at. I said it’s just 5 bucks! I was arguing with God! Telling him 5 bucks was pocket change!

Proverbs 21:3

To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.

I was so afraid of saying no to my Dad. It was far easier to sacrifice money. As crazy as this sounds I was afraid if I said no to him and wasn’t “there” for him, he would commit suicide. The Lord knew this too. So the Lord said to me just put it on him. Tell him you will give him 5 bucks but when you do this is how it will make you feel. So that is what I did. I will never forget it either. I still see myself outside Perry’s, under the overhang, and my Dad walking up. We were closed and it was about 9:30 at night. I met him outside. He was his happy self I guess because he was going to go golfing the next day. As he walked up I said calmly and “matter of factly” if that is even a word, Dad, I will give you this 5 bucks but this is how it will make me feel. That is all I said. My Dad instantly became angry. He became angry before I even got all the words out. I mean instantly and said all I do for you kids, all I do! He went on a rant as he walked off into the parking lot yelling all these very selfish things.

I walked back in the restaurant finished my shift, got in my car, and as I drove back home, to my dorm, peace came over me. The closer I got to the campus the more peace I felt. I had so much peace knowing I did the right thing, the hard thing that God asked me to do. Grace met me in that moment. Grace to obey and do the hard!

Do you know from that day forward my Dad never asked for money again. Not once! I remember I use to meet him at McDonald’s right there on 82nd and you know what…he began to buy my lunch. I would offer to pay for my own and he would say your money is no good Julie and then he would pay for both of us. Amazing what happened as a result of me doing that very hard thing.

You see


God did something in me that night but more importantly

God did something in my Dad that night

And as his daughter it was severely needed

Is it possible that your obedience could release goodness in someone else

I guess so

We are praying for all of you

Because of this

To have God’s best

We MUST do the hard

Whatever. That. Is.